• This. Yes. Or even a group that isn't anonymous.

    I started going to individual psychotherapy for anxiety (I didn't know I had it until I was 28 - now I know I probably had it from childhood onward), about two years ago and made lots of progress, and that therapist also does group. So I joined one and can't believe it took me so long! The ability to practice healthy relationship behavior with a group of people is invaluable. I have learned to take better care of myself by not letting other people trigger me into codependent behavior. I'm not perfect, but without the group I'd be way worse off.

  • I can't say enough how much self-awareness you are already bringing to the table - that's great. Since you're asking for advice, I think you should go to a therapist yourself. Something about dealing with others' anger is very upsetting for you and therapy could help you understand those feelings and learn to tolerate them so you can improve the health of your relationships.

    Remember - you can't change others, you can only work on yourself. Hugs. I'm sorry you're going through this.