• Leather boots, because I'm sturdy, hard-wearing, smell good, and classically and perpetually en vogue.

  • Haha, well, thank you but the theory's all there....I just didn't want to do it. I did though! A bit. And it was nice and shit.

  • Yeah....in fact, by definition, this group shouldn't really ever get off the ground.

  • An ex-boyfriend had a seizure during sex. He was right up on top, I was spreadeagled but kind of quite high up, he started fitting, I panicked, held him in the air with my body until he finished, carefully lowered him down with my legs, rolled out from under him and then fell over because I swear i nearly had a hernia. Then rolled him, cleared away the mild vom, etc.

  • I need to clean up

    No, I need to declutter

    Halp. How do that? Halp.

  • Ain't that the fkin truth?! I work in a health/care department and the number of staff that say things about students like (admittedly, in frustration, rather than malice a lot of the time) like 'they're not right in the head', 'they're just crazy', 'they need to pull themselves together'etc.,etc. It's quite amazing how many areas of H&SC don't seem to have the remotest amount of sensitivity to trauma-induced behaviour. Many of them have worked in social services but not - crucially, I think - day in, day out, on the front-line with the service users themselves

    That said, I think a lot of insensitivity comes from people not being able to deal with their own shit. My office has histories of abuse, alcoholism, and, from what I can tell, just generically vindictive, demanding, unforgiving, traumatised-themselves, and spiteful parenting in that kind of post-WW2-UK way that we do.

  • I quite literally couldn't imagine not planning...I can't stand standing at the front looking like an eejit and then it just makes life harder because then you've set a precedent for them not to respect you.

    And the CV stuff was so worth it....for one, paired with a schomoozing phonecall, might have secured the job (which I don't feel okay with but, you know...)

  • Ha, nice! Shame you can't automate them (?).

  • I'm a teacher so I'm planning for the week as well as applying for multiple jobs and feeling a lot of adolescent-style angst about wanting to procrastinate but just being too damn old for that nonsense. I did procrastinate on Friday...didn't send a student the work they needed, didn't confront another about plagiarism, didn't do my marking, bunked off my teacher training.....and surprise, surprise, felt like shit for being a total pooface.

    I also massively resent having to update my CV yet again to apply for summer work, as well as the sheer fucking malarkey of filling in an online application form for a job at my current place that I really want but am scared of (departmental teacher/co-ordinator of english and maths) because I have the passion and knowledge but no meaningful training for what is effecively a specialist role and I'll probably get it but then not be able to do it well. Same goes for the summer job. Not super qualified but the pay (!).

    It's all going on over here. such grump, such princessery, no actual problems.

    And I played D&D for 7 hours yesterday and it was great!

  • Yeah, I know that feeling! I'm struggling with a colleague who I'm really fond of but she hates 'political correctness' and defneds golliwogs and I can't think straight around it or talk to her about it because I'm just so disappointed!!

  • Sounds amazing! Thanks :)

  • The first place to start is by asking them!

    I (cisfem) and my partner (cismasc) use cockrings and buttplugs more than anything. Cockrings make him rock-fucking-solid and wide which makes me scream and butt plugs (admittedly, more for him although I do like it) bring a new dimension/type to that session's pleasure.

    What do you want to see/feel? I also quite like being tied-up and ravaged in that slightly-tired, gender-traditonal way ;)

  • I tend to not have enough energy for this kind of thing but it always occurs to me that it might be worth while just asking 'So, what is a feminist?' to find out where they're coming from.

    I think a lot of these kinds of arguments/frustrations are justbecause people aren't using words in the same way or have some fundamentally different ideas about the point of life/society/whatever and personally, I get a little bored by all the going-round-in-circles-arguing that goes on. Find out first if you're both coming from the same place, supplant the bickering and cut to the chase!