• As a kid I had crushes but I don't think they were really sexual. (I know some kids do experience physical attraction, I don't think that was the case for me.)

    Early teens: I assumed I was straight cos I didn't know there were any other options (early 90s UK). But I also thought I was probably asexual, since I experienced no attraction to teenaged boys. It turns out... I'm just not attracted to teenaged boys, and that just happens to be the exact group that teenaged girls are supposed to be into.

    Late teens: I experienced attraction to girls and women, but didn't realize that was what I was, since my feelings were not like the portrayal of attraction I saw in media. I became aware of sexology research such as Kinsey and Hite, and started claiming that most people are probably a little bit bi, but didn't exactly see that as my own identity.

    At 19 I had my first sexual relationship with a young man. I saw two women kissing for the first time, and identified that I was turned on and a little bit jealous. So when I fell madly in love with a woman aged 20, it became obvious that I was bi.

    So I was in fact bi from the age of 16 or so, but it took me a few years to clue in that that's a thing. And I've picked up the term queer from hanging around activist communities since then; for me it's a catch-all term that covers several aspects of gender and sexuality.

  • A good friend of mine gave me a copy of Cyteen and I absolutely adored it. I've actually not read very much else of Cherryh's because I'm overwhelmed for where to start, so I'm hoping to pic up some good recs for my second Cherryh from this community. (Actually that's not quite true, I've also read Pride of Chanur. So it would be my third.)

  • I don't work with animals, only cell cultures, but when I end up wearing a lab coat with sleeves that don't close properly, I often modify it with snappable armbands intended for cyclists. They're sometimes called slap wraps, this sort of thing.

    They're completely the opposite of a hassle to configure, and pretty flexible in sizing. And since I'm using them for lab work I like that they can be wiped clean or sprayed with disinfectant, and they lie flat around my wrists rather than creating an uneven surface where dirt may collect.

  • I have a long list of feature requests and agree with most of what's been mentioned in the comments already. But in terms of need before launch:

    • Clarity about what's happening with privacy levels. Right now no community is visible to the whole internet, you have to log in to read any post. But what happens at launch? Communities that are currently "public" automatically become visible to the whole internet, and communities that are currently "private" are visible only to members of the community? Is there going to be any way to restrict communities to logged-in users but not necessarily members, or is that level of privacy going away completely?
    • A meaningful policy on what counts as "porn" and what is acceptable sexually explicit content.
    • Native ability to view the site with light text on a dark background; even after the tweaks the contrast is too low and the screen too bright for many readers. I am not willing to promote content on Imzy if the whole site design is hurting people, and a publicly launched site can't rely on people installing unofficial styles via browser extensions.
    • A guarantee that there will be no more "oops" bugs where people's wallet names and other identifying details are exposed. Yes, I understand that the site can't be infinitely secure against hacking, but right now it seems like giving or receiving tips or even just adding payment details can potentially link usernames to wallet names, similar with adding a name and address to be able to receive gifts like t-shirts and stickers. At the moment I'm not willing to interact with the payment system at all, nor am I willing to encourage people to join to the site who may be actively harmed by this kind of privacy leak.
  • Hi there. I followed you from the general Imzy community because I remember your awesome comments on the Emotional Labour discussion on MeFi. And you did not disappoint cos you wrote such a great piece about tone on the internet which I really appreciated.

  • No, no personal blog yet. I'm waiting to see how the personal blog thing develops - if they actually create a proper separate system for it rather than just a community with a particular tag, and if site culture seems to be tending in that direction (what with all the Tumblr and DW folk), I might do it, but at the moment I don't want to use up my only other community creation slot.

  • This is Liv, with the same username and icon as over on DW. You're the person who supplied me with my Imzy invite.

  • That makes sense, a good policy is better than a rushed one.

    Do you have a plan for what happens when people who don't make that distinction between porn and fanart attack the site? If they complain to your payment provider that they're facilitating a site full of dirty images. Or to the media corps that own the source material and probably don't approve of explicit fanart. Or even to the police...

    I'm really reassured that you're saying, we won't pull an LJ strikethrough, that truly is great. But LJ didn't do strikethrough just because they were gratuitously evil, they did it because they came under pressure from anti-porn activism groups. Basically what I'm asking is, are you prepared to not only allow erotic art, but to defend it when your site comes under attack?

  • This policy seems basically reasonable, but you can't have a major aspect of site policy referenced only in a personal discussion with one of the site leaders in a thread in a random community. People of goodwill aren't going to find it, they're just going to see the "no porn" in the FAQ and feel like they can't post anything on topics related to sex. And people who want to fill up the site with the kinds of porn you (and the individuals they're targeting) don't want are going to argue that this isn't a real rule, it's just someone having a chat with Kaela, it's not something you're going to be able to enforce.

    This just isn't scalable, apart from anything else. People who use the site need to know clearly what is and isn't allowed, not just start threads in the Imzy community and have long conversations about definitions and edge cases. You're already 20 times bigger than a few months ago; what about when there's hundreds of thousands or millions of users?