I had what I'd term an emotional relationship with a woman who identified as straight - she told me that she had romantic feelings for me, but I ended up getting out of that situation, because it was very complicated and kind of toxic (for reasons not limited to her straightness). We never slept together though.
Probably the most bigoted thing anyone's ever said directly to me in person was something along the lines of "for God's sake, just pick one", from a girl at university. Second place isn't a comment but a look more than one guy has given me on finding out I was bi - just a really gross, leering grin. There's been the odd thing online, but that's been more along the lines of intra-community biphobia. I did also once get called a 'dyke' by a street harasser.
Usually I ignore it, but the last time I got 'the grin' I responded with "please don't fetishise my sexuality". It didn't exactly work, because that guy was a total arsehole and basically just scoffed at me like that was ridiculous thing to ask, but I guess I'm glad I said something.
I've been lucky compared to a lot of people not to get more harassment and abuse, and I'm definitely lucky that I was raised in an environment where I didn't have to fear any violence from my family when I came out, and where I can be fairly open about my sexuality in public. Still, it's hard not to absorb negative societal messages, and I didn't fully come to terms with my sexuality until my late teens, and it took a lot of questioning and self-reflection to get there.
I feel like the headline writer was having a little fun with this one!
Corddry or Schrab?



QueeriesHave you ever had a same-sex relationship with someone who identifies as straight?Mar 09 at 4:47 PM