• I had what I'd term an emotional relationship with a woman who identified as straight - she told me that she had romantic feelings for me, but I ended up getting out of that situation, because it was very complicated and kind of toxic (for reasons not limited to her straightness). We never slept together though.

  • Probably the most bigoted thing anyone's ever said directly to me in person was something along the lines of "for God's sake, just pick one", from a girl at university. Second place isn't a comment but a look more than one guy has given me on finding out I was bi - just a really gross, leering grin. There's been the odd thing online, but that's been more along the lines of intra-community biphobia. I did also once get called a 'dyke' by a street harasser.

    Usually I ignore it, but the last time I got 'the grin' I responded with "please don't fetishise my sexuality". It didn't exactly work, because that guy was a total arsehole and basically just scoffed at me like that was ridiculous thing to ask, but I guess I'm glad I said something.

    I've been lucky compared to a lot of people not to get more harassment and abuse, and I'm definitely lucky that I was raised in an environment where I didn't have to fear any violence from my family when I came out, and where I can be fairly open about my sexuality in public. Still, it's hard not to absorb negative societal messages, and I didn't fully come to terms with my sexuality until my late teens, and it took a lot of questioning and self-reflection to get there.

  • I feel like the headline writer was having a little fun with this one!

  • Corddry or Schrab?