• Frequently, I try to set him up with them. Our relationship is open, and we're both totally okay with the other hooking up with other people (assuming everyone is being safe of course). It's not for everyone, of course, but it can be really nice to talk openly with each other about our relationships with others and who is hot and who might have been checking us out ... We're actually emotionally closed; we're not about to start dating other people, but casually hooking up with friends is totally fine.

    On the other hand, sometimes I am uncomfortable with either of us "checking people out," because that can often mean sexualizing/objectifying people we don't know... In that way, this can be a really complicated question.