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Is there a type of personality that you'll never ever get along with?
For me, it's people who are both arrogant and ignorant. I can deal with ignorant on its own, I can (mostly) deal with arrogance on its own... but that combination, and I know there's absolutely no chance of a positive relationship in any perceivable way.
What about you all?




The people who are cock sure of their views and make it impossible to talk about anything outside of them. The type of people who won't give a metaphorical inch even when they can be proven wrong.
Same. I don't argue all the time but if you believe something and I ask "why", it's disappointing if you can't back it up. Hell, saying "I don't know, I'll figure it out" would be awesome! But people who aren't interested in knowing why they believe what they believe...they're just too different from me.
Religious zealots. They apply no critical thinking and use God as a blanket excuse for anything and everything. They cannot be reasoned with and cannot be changed they just exist to be a problem but one they are convinced they aren't.
Often found saying "God said it, I believe it And that settles it". Also fond of "God is mysterious and we can't know many things" aka " God works in mysterious ways". The latter most often used when horrific things happen as a way to avoid having to accept the truth of how horrible humanity can be.
That's funny, because one of my pet peeves is when people promote a "straw man" view of those with strong religious faith as being illogical, irrational, ignorant, uneducated and blindly unaware of the true nature of the world around them. Not to say that it's impossible for religiously devout people to be this way, just that it's not nearly as common in my experience as anti-religious people often make it out to be.
The kinds of "zealots" who are dangerous in my experience are more often the ones who blindly follow a human pastor/priest/other spiritual leader and trust him/her to tell them what God "really" says and wants, instead of studying their own religious books and taking responsibility for their own spiritual lives and decisions.
I went to the Liberty University school of religion. I'm not speaking to the deeply religious I'm talking about the ignorant who use religion as an excuse or weapon. There are many religious people who deeply hold their beliefs but understand their views and beliefs are not exclusively correct and without regard for others. The idea that God allows me to swing by fist and if you get hit its your fault. An example I use is "let's fix foster care then discuss abortion" I.e accept the outcome of banning abortion will be an increase in foster care and an increase in funding, space and other resource needs. The zealot says no just ban it and we'll solve it later. I have a huge problem with that. Ignoring reality just so you get your religious outcome is harmful.
Being deeply religious is not the problem it's the zealotry where logic is discarded and religious angle drives all. This isn't a rare occurrence but it's not a majority either. It's a vocal minority.
So not all religious people are zealots but zealots are people I have a problem with.
Fair enough. Though I think it's possible to believe that your religious convictions are both true and exclusive and still be thoughtful, compassionate and gracious about it. Like Jesus, who was tough on self-righteous religious hypocrites who used their status as a tool for power and control, but who was kind to all the "sinners" and "pagans" those religious people thought He shouldn't be associating with. Yet He still taught there was only one God and only one way to Him.
The textbook workplace psychopath. You will never 'get along' with one of these. For a time you may think it's the case, if you are seen as useful to their ambitions. But it's not the case. My one and only experience of one was truly awful.
So far due to working blue collar jobs so far, I think, I haven't yet met one of these types. I'm counting my blessings.
I am one of those people with a war going on in their hearts. I'm extremely interested in human behavior I think about it incessantly. I ask a lot of questions. I find people fascinating. I care about people easily.
I also hate them. Very much. I'm a newly branded misanthrope and my diplomacy skills are slipping. So I have to say that there is part of me that's like, "I have had friends that are so different from me, we should have started World War III at some point. I can jump any hurdle; bring it on." And then there's another part or me that's like, "Fuck everybody. Porn fuck 'em. I'm over it."
That said, the first thing that comes to mind are people that take everything literally. I know that's not a personality type, it's a habit/tendency. But anyway, I think it shows a lack of, or an unwillingness to use critical thinking skills. If you can't deduce that something is hypothetical, metaphorical, theoretical, etc. and I have to footnote all of my conversation so you can follow along, I have a really hard time talking to you.
"I think people should be allowed to do anything that makes them happy."
"Oh really?! Anything?? What if I murder someone and that makes me happy?"
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I also can't get along with people who tell me what I think and how I feel. Don't put words in my mouth.
I might need to make a venting community, because I have a lot more.
Also: this would have been a great question to hear from users off anon. Just as a way of learning more about each other so we can be considerate in the future.
Sorry for the wall of text. 😳
I keep forgetting about this horrible quality. This kind of thing happens so much to people with problems like anxiety and depression (for example). It's the worst.
Good point, I am not sure where the non-anon ask is. :)
People that only relate to others for personal gain or hidden agendas.
Ugh yes, and lately for me it seems like there's so many people like this. I sometimes wonder if this is the norm.
People don't even realise the effects they might be causing. Well, guess if they knew, they wouldn't care anyway.
Normal people.
No actually people who interrupt and talk over other people. I technically have a few friends who do this but it's extremely difficult for me as I'm more submissive/passive which means I'll usually just not talk when they do. Also depression & anxiety definitely don't help this endeavour.
This happens to quiet people / introverts a lot. It reaaaally gets old eh?
The type of personality that judges people before getting to know them, to the point where they refuse to get to know them in fear of their preconceived notion being wrong.
Point taken...
It depends on what you mean by "get along." I tend to avoid confrontation by minimizing interaction with people that are difficult for one reason or another. In that sense I suppose I get along with almost everybody. In another sense I get along with almost no one by not letting others in.
I'll put up an ambiguous front to deflect their probes. Most people try to figure you out. They want to pigeonhole you as this or that. Are you republican or democrat. Do you like punk music or real punk music. Am I christian, spiritual, atheist, what? Many probes come down to: can I be drawn into drama? Am I a reliable side taker at your disposal?
Most people really try hard to put every pigeon into exactly two holes. If they have to break the pigeon's neck to cram it in... so be it. That's a harsh metaphor but the pain can be real and that's why I deflect.
I suppose I've become a bit of a coward. I avoid risk by keeping people at a distance. I have strong opinions that I don't express because I don't want to deal with the backlash that people don't even realize that they're being hurtful about. I'm like the stereotypical homo in the closet.
I faux get along with everyone, I suppose. In reality I get along with almost no one because that's who I actually let in. I suppose that's why I'm here in an anonymous group. Fuck me if I'm not consistent.
This was a really thoughtful answer, thank you. I like when people are so open and honest. It was good of you to share.
Yes, loud types.
Teachers who don't give their students a fair chance.
People who are authoritarian and/or bullies. People who don't listen to or value input from those they view as "subordinate" (i.e., would rather drive the figurative car off the cliff than admit that they were wrong or don't know something). These traits often seem to go hand-in-hand.
I think this is really close to what I don't get along with. I think arrogance can sometimes be substituted for being a bully. I guess it depends on how far they take their arrogance. Yes bullies are the absolute worst.
Snobbish elitists; narrow-minded people; ignorant and self-righteous people.
Besserwissers.
People who makes everything about themselves. Not necessarily just in a "I'm better than anyone else" fashion, but also those who consistently make every single conversation about themselves somehow, even when you're talking about completely unrelated topics, or touchy sunject that needs a bare minimum of empathy and common sense to be addressed.
Yeah, people who are ignorant and arrogant. People who don't listen.