I'm a 21 y.o. male. I've found it, it came and went a few times. And btw I was fat each time. The key to finding it... Was to not look for it. I didn't go to my new Japanese class with the purpose of meeting a girl to date, but I ended up meeting a really sweet girl who only liked me and thought all other guys were friends or not worth her time.
My thought is... let it come to you. Meanwhile, just chill, relax, love yourself, be confident in your worth as a person, and be you.. it will come.
I don't believe in romantic love. In the sense that you can love family, you can love friends, and if you love a life partner, that love is fundamentally the same thing. The romance part is all made up by attaching meaning to various things like compressed carbon and greeting card holidays marketed by various companies.
It contributes to this idea that romantic love is a burning passion and if it's not at peak value at all times it's not real. It creates unrealistic expectations about relationships. When you think about lasting relationships with family and friends, it's not an unbridled passion that sustains it, so why can't that type of commitment work for your romantic relationships?
There are aromantic people. I'm not one of them but I get it. Society tells us we're supposed to feel a certain way and a lot of it is socially constructed. The idea of "biological love" is hard to research for this reason. Science shows that we're not "naturally" geared toward monogamy. Monogamy is an agreement between two people, that's all. I'm not advocating for polyamory, I'm saying that we need to evaluate what it means to love somebody in a lasting fashion. If monogamy helps, then by all means, stick with it.
That's why I look at "puppy love" as a legitimate form of love, without a concrete, realistic idea of what it means to make it a lasting relationship. They can certainly segue into a marriage with kids, etc., but do teenagers understand all the implications being with another person for the rest of their life entails? A lot of adults can't either!
I'm a 21 y.o. male. I've found it, it came and went a few times. And btw I was fat each time. The key to finding it... Was to not look for it. I didn't go to my new Japanese class with the purpose of meeting a girl to date, but I ended up meeting a really sweet girl who only liked me and thought all other guys were friends or not worth her time. My thought is... let it come to you. Meanwhile, just chill, relax, love yourself, be confident in your worth as a person, and be you.. it will come.
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I don't believe in romantic love. In the sense that you can love family, you can love friends, and if you love a life partner, that love is fundamentally the same thing. The romance part is all made up by attaching meaning to various things like compressed carbon and greeting card holidays marketed by various companies.
It contributes to this idea that romantic love is a burning passion and if it's not at peak value at all times it's not real. It creates unrealistic expectations about relationships. When you think about lasting relationships with family and friends, it's not an unbridled passion that sustains it, so why can't that type of commitment work for your romantic relationships?
There are aromantic people. I'm not one of them but I get it. Society tells us we're supposed to feel a certain way and a lot of it is socially constructed. The idea of "biological love" is hard to research for this reason. Science shows that we're not "naturally" geared toward monogamy. Monogamy is an agreement between two people, that's all. I'm not advocating for polyamory, I'm saying that we need to evaluate what it means to love somebody in a lasting fashion. If monogamy helps, then by all means, stick with it.
That's why I look at "puppy love" as a legitimate form of love, without a concrete, realistic idea of what it means to make it a lasting relationship. They can certainly segue into a marriage with kids, etc., but do teenagers understand all the implications being with another person for the rest of their life entails? A lot of adults can't either!
If you're asking in terms of romance: (as a 15 yo) Experiences: nil Thoughts: i hope it exists.
I hope so as well (17 yo)
I love bad bitches that's my fucking problem and yeah, I like to fuck I got a fucking problem.
https://youtu.be/liZm1im2erU
Sorry, just can't help it.
Here's a fun fact: Greek has 4 different words for love. I can't remember all 4 off the top of my head. But it's interesting to know all the types
that's really cool
Yeah i heard about that i think 'eros' is one of them.
Eros philios agape and another
I hope so as well (17 yo)