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I've always had a plan, but due to some setbacks in life I had to let go of my plans. Now 5 years later after giving up what I really wanted I've found myself lost. The last couple of weeks has been a roller coaster ride of emotions. I feel drained. When I look in the mirror I don't see me any more, but someone who is older and just gave up. I'm lost and I don't know how to find my way back. I want to look in the mirror and be happy with myself. How can I find myself again?




Have a look at any Brad Yates EFT Tapping video on YouTube that you feel sums up your problem. He is brilliant and EFT is amazing (and free!!).
I'm sorry I don't have any tips, as I feel pretty much like yourself. Still wanted to comment so you know you're not alone in this feeling.
All I want to say is that a way to find yourself is to just not, just go on with life being carefree. That's the only way, you will find things that interest you and make you happy. This way it will be natural and not seem artificial. But while doing this just always do one thing: DO NOT GIVE UP. Be yourself, if you can then go do something you love or like to do, only if you can, don't try to force yourself. Go travel to places or anything you'd like to do. But don't give up. You are not alone in this, just remember that and carry on. I hope you feel better soon.😊
Hey anonymous friend, Thank you for replying and lovely words. I don't really express my feelings easily. My friends and family have noticed that something is wrong. They will come by today and this should be the first step to change my mirror and be myself again.
That's good, I give you luck on changing your mirror and good days to come. Thank you for having the time to reply.
I'm in the same boat. I look back at the warm and accepting person I used to be, and hate the judgemental and petty person I've become. Ten years out of high school as a model student and I've been lost in terms of career and work. To top it off, a trail of bad and unlucky relationships behind me.
I don't know what to do either, but lately I've been tidying up my apartment, doing my laundry, cooking my meals, and taking my dog to the park for an hour to enjoy the sunshine. And although my life is still at the same stage, I feel a little less lost than before. I hope it helps you a little.
And most importantly: giving up is not a permanent state. You can get up and move on whenever you are ready or whenever you can again. Don't let our contemporary overachiever culture fool you!
The thing that people don't often mention about reaching what you wish for most dearly is that it's a bumpy ride. I don't mean bumpy as in hard but that it has stops and starts, diversions, roadblocks, and all sort of crap that makes you feel like day by day you are moving, but not in the direction you need. It's infuriating, numbing, and overwhelming sometimes to have to start and stop so often when others seem to just be cruising on.
But the fact that you're asking for help and seeking for a way to continue even though it feels impossible means that you are still fighting. You need a bit of help and some being really freaking upset before you pick it all up again and keep pushing forward. This is worth it and so are all your efforts. Trust yourself and be honest with yourself. Start by telling yourself "I trust myself to figure this out". It doesn't matter if you don't believe it for a damn second, but keeping the negative thoughts from flowing with a white lie is a lot better than letting yourself be battered silly by self doubt.
What you are fighting is real and important. This counts, and so do your efforts. Don't let our contemporary culture negate the significance of your emotions and dreams by making you think you're "one of those people that gave up". That's not a group that exists the way we are used to thinking it does. Celebrate what you have achieved through the diversions, even if those things weren't your original intentions. It still took a lot from you to do it.
You can do it. It might be hard and painful, but as long as it is worth it, then all that matters is that you are doing it for you and fighting for yourself.
Courage!