What you're keeping inside of you that you need to share - anonymously. To purge.
Ah, empathy
My brother compared my cancer treatment exhaustion to being tired from writing an essay all night. I tried to explain why mine was a little more upsetting and he wonders why I'm "seeking pity". It's not like you're going to wither away, he says. Actually yes, yes, it could be like that.
For bonus empathy, my sister told me to suck it up and get a good job, and my mother told me I'm her least responsible child, and that I'm using cancer as an excuse for being lazy.
Thank you, family. Thank you for being so fucking empathetic.




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Thank you <3 I'm glad you understand. I'm slowly working my way toward a better space.
I'm so sorry that your family is full of douchebags. You deserve better.
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Oh my. None of these are appropriate responses to Cancer. They really resent feeling any obligation towards you, that's clear. They would rather pretend it weren't real. I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
The fatigue and nausea felt during and after chemo and radiation is not like anything they can compare to. And Cancer patients experience two forms of pain: neuropathic and nociceptive. And at levels they could not imagine. Opiates can't even touch the former. Meds needed will further add to your weakness. Prolonged periods of pain are exhausting.
Do you have a cancer sufferers' support group you can look to in the absence of family support?
A lot of people closest to me choose to, as best they can, pretend it's not real! It's astonishing. By making it seem so unimportant, perhaps they're trying to make it seem less scary?
Either way yes, so inappropriate.
Luckily, I do have friends and a counselor and doctors who have been incredibly supportive! ❤
Im glad to hear it. Your family don't know how to respond to the feelings they're having. Not at all. It's a shame. I've lost several family members to cancer, it's awful. So much support is needed from family. I wish you the best in your therapy.
Thank you <3
Family is, by nature, random people we are related to. I have some horror stories on mine, but what worked for me was distancing myself and finding friends.
You can't really fix those people, they will really live in their little worlds.
Lots of love and empathy you way...
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