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Can people PLEASE stop calling celebrities "daddy"?
Is there some reason kids don't realize this is a term from gay culture and is, in contexts in which you are not speaking to your own parent, connotatively sexual? Just today scrolling through Meetups I saw:
Daddy Retreat, Daddy & Son - Massage & Wellness
I mean, I wonder what happens there! It must be some quality famliy time!
You're creeping people out, fandom. Stop it.




Oh, god, yeah.
I mean, on one hand, children should be able to call their parents 'daddy.' I'm a pretty strong believer in 'dd/lg is gross and it sexualizes pedophilia and rape,' but even aside from that, it's awful how people have utterly ruined this word.
I think people are using it to be sexual. They want to talk about how hot their fave is.
But this is the wrong word to use, and I'm hoping those people knock it off soon.
This is a thing that I find so creepy, and so over the line that I just start staring off into space whenever I read it.
It's mom too and it's just... weird. Some celebrities seem to quite like being called mom, but those are the new, younger celebrities (Tana Mongeau springs to mind, and The Gabbie Show) who are based within those crowds not from out of them
Ugh, it's weird either way.
I'm not sure they all mean it sexually (though some probably do)! And some probably don't even realize it can be taken that way (again, some I'm sure do!)
However, it's not only related to gay culture. Daddy!kink can be a het thing also.
That's true. Given fandom's tendency for slash, I guess I figured that's where the term came into greater use, since it's definitely a whole scene.
Given how many times I have had to explain on FFA that the Old Guard leatherdaddy scene and actual faux-incest or ageplay daddy/boy and daddy/girl kinksters are very, very different dynamics, I'd tend to suspect fandom's overall awareness of the leather scene style of daddy kink is fairly low.
(But along with het DD/lg kink being a thing, using daddy/papi/etc. as endearments also has a very long history; it's not just a thing from various parts of the kink scene.)
I always thought it was supposed to be sexual? Which, I mean, does make it creepy, but I never thought people were doing this unaware of the connotations.
Here is what pop star Lorde has to say about the matter: “i retweeted kim’s amazing cover and wrote ‘MOM’, which among the youthz is a compliment; it basically jokingly means ’adopt me/be my second mom/i think of you as a mother figure you are so epic,’”
And basically they think the same applies to daddy
I haven't encountered that yet, but it does sound ... very odd. And creepy, yes ...
It happens A LOT on twitter.
I've reached the point of fandom dotage where I don't know what they're even trying to do with this. Thank goodness.
If you ask them, they claim that it's a compliment because you look up to them and feel they are a good role model or some such gibberish.
Okaaaaay. Creepy it is!
But, I mean, basically on Twitter it means a celeb posts something and they just get "Daddy!" as a reply. It totally baffles them. Misha has even replied in video chats with like "No, I am not your father," trying to funny but also clear that he finds it weird.
"Fandom dotage"--love that! Do you mind if I borrow that phrase?
:-)
Sure! I won't remember using it tomorrow anyway. ;)