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Why Dating With Depression Is So (Bleeping) Hard - People Watching #3
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Why Dating With Depression Is So (Bleeping) Hard - People Watching #3
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I just saw this and absolutely loved it. It's less than ten minutes long. I recommend it. If you watch it, it would be great if you left a comment to let me know what you think about it or how it relates to you.



It seems alright, I guess.
Bringing depression up on a date (I've done it before) seems like a big no-no. Mostly because: I am not my illness. Why do I want you to get to get to know my illness before you get to know the rest of me? Spending almost the entire date talking about it seems pretty awful too. Mostly because it kind of sets a precedent that I want a therapist-partner. And not just a partner. But also because that's kind of boring lol.
I'm not saying it should be a secret or it should be kept private because you might be embarrassed about it. I'm just saying it's ok to date without your illness headlining the tour.
The part at the end was pretty cool. How the imposter kind of crept in and started confirming her doubts without her really realizing it. That seemed like an accurate experience. Except some of what he said seemed right. Is it not a bit self absorbed to spend a date talking about your issues? (read: looking for a partner-therapist)
Maybe I'm just interpreting it in the wrong way.
Anyway. Depression and dating is pretty hard. It's hard to believe people are truly interested in you or that you deserve to be treated better than how some of the assholes that you come across treat you. It's hard to follow up because sometimes you don't have the energy to go out again. Stuff like that. It sucks.
I'm speaking for myself, btw. This is just my personal opinion as it applies to myself.
I really liked it especially the ending. Having depression personified was really interesting and seeing him interact with the phone, a physical object, was really interesting and not something I was expecting, depression being not actually physical. He also gesticulated a lot and I appreciated the little details that gave him more character, the coffee cup, suspenders, etc.
I did find him texting and her not answering a little odd, while I definitely relate it just seems slightly strange too me.
I also agree with @Kittxn that I wouldn't wanna talk about just that for a whole date however I can see how it could come up a lot as it can definitely infect every aspect of life.