My experiences putting all of me together to cope with chronic illness, depression, anxiety in a constructive way.
Family
As painful as it has been to lose daddy this way, there are bright points. I left home when my brother and sister were still so young that I've felt a little apart from them most of our lives. The daddy saga has highlighted how close we are in spite of our differences. Some of those things that stand out to me:
- We had difficult conversations and made hard decisions together
- We have done our best to look out for each other and ourselves all without letting any kind of resentment take root
- We have found beautiful things about daddy and how much he loved and needed us, and that he felt we were there for him
- We have laughed and drank together
- We did car karaoke together
- We have found a new level of closeness with each other but also with our mom and dad.
The energy that exists between people says so much. We have each suffered and grieved while daddy suffered and found the ultimate peace. The energy that exists between us today while we put together his obituary, Eulogy, and service folders has been the most postive, close, positive energy I can remember between us in spite of the underlying grief.
The message that seems to be coming to us from all of this is to release your burdens. You owe it to yourself to find peace. Remember that those that are assholes, if they've done right by you at all... they loved you enough to go against their nature to do that.
Release your burdens. Forgive, not because anyone deserves it, because you need it. You do.
Do that now when you still have the opportunity to find peace within yourself and, maybe, rebuild relationships with those you love.




"You owe it to yourself to find peace. Remember that those that are assholes, if they've done right by you at all... they loved you enough to go against their nature to do that."
That's some brilliant insight, right there. Thank you.
That was advice my brother had given daddy. It is brilliant.