Help. We all need it. Open forum for anyone who needs advice, or to just get something off of your chest. Anons welcome.
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Help. We all need it. Open forum for anyone who needs advice, or to just get something off of your chest. Anons welcome.
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Help. We all need it. Open forum for anyone who needs advice, or to just get something off of your chest. Anons welcome.
This doesn't help at all but just saying I'm the same way, I so often find myself forgetting things I shouldn't then they're like "uhh..noo" and I woder how in hell's name I could be so awful as to not remember something so important.
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Yes! And then you've known this person for like eight months and you're just like "hey...jim...bo..?"
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I feel like I'll be at the alter to marry someone and will be like "I do...jane...ice...lish...?" while the other gets progressively more and more annoyed.
I'm really good at remembering children's names, and I can never remember their parents' names. (And I never know last names, which makes things even better.) So when I was teaching, I'd have a class of kids, and I'd know all their names, and I'd know which kid went with which parent, but all of the parents' names were things like, "Katie's dad."
Now I do a lot of volunteering backstage with theater, so I have between eighteen and thirty kids on my side of the stage. I get my list the first day, and then I know all of the kids. But these kids do not have parents that have names. None of them. Some of them have siblings with names, maybe. (Last show there was a set of identical twins, and one was on my side of the stage and the other was on the other side, and they always walked in together, and since they were in identical costumes there was no way for me to even tell them apart that way. That wasn't fair.)
This is me 1000% bless you ♡
I used to have friends I'd always pair up with in class/sit next to - never remembered their names. 😓
I feel like this is just a part of being a parent. The moment you become a parent you stop becoming person X and become parent of child Y.
This is true. What was really weird is where I taught all of the teachers were Mr. or Ms./Mrs. Lastname. Except for me. I was Miriam. Very rarely was I Miss Miriam. Even when I was teaching my kids' friends, none of them called me Kidname's Mom. (Exception, my son's best friend was one of my students and has the same last name as we do. They do theater with us now. She calls me fake mom because she got tired of people asking if we were related or if she was my daughter.)
I didn't know your full name was Miriam! I had a book (about Israel, funnily enough) when I was little and the girl's name was Miriam in it. Random factoid about Merah. 😁
I've gotten used to just telling people I am bad at faces, names, deadlines, etc.
It's helped me to stop worrying about it and just say outright, "My brain has difficulty remembering faces," in other words!
If people judge you for that, well, my goodness!
I do this more often now, but a part of me always feels like I'm making excuses for my incompetence.
I've given up on caring whether people think I am incompetent or not ;)
Omg its so weird coming back to this post now that I know you all so much better!
(Waits eagerly for answer as well)
Same. And yet I will forget to check back later
Uuhhh I may or may not have never come back to this post if you didn't respond to my comment ssooooooo.....
What if you carried one of those little composition notebooks (pocket size) and just wrote a small note to help anchor the conversation in your mind? Like, "Sue's cousin: breast cancer", "clerk at post office with beard: John. Likes Star Trek". "Met with the Nelson's (add date, or date all entries), discussed Christmas plans, Mary's sister's divorce, Joe and Fred going golfing next spring"...something like that. You could also use a planner like a Filofax or a dated dairy for the same purpose, if you prefer a larger format.
I should have done this when I was working retail at a small store with 75% repeat customers. I couldn't remember details of their lives at all!
This is a really good idea!
Thanks! One could also separate the notebook into categories for quick reference, such as work, friends, family, store people (clerks?), etc...