For introverts, by introverts. Welcome. But no pressure!
Dating for Introverts?
I told myself I wouldn't ask this but I'm being inundated with Valentine's Day garbage today so I felt it was only fair to inflict it on all of you...
No. No. Not that...
I am curious however how others here have met their significant others. So, how did you meet your partner? (past or present) or if you're not into dating how do you tend to meet folks you do get along with?




I've never really gone out with the purpose of meeting someone to date (or... I guess I sometimes did as a teenager, but unfortunately asking out a stranger requires you to talk to them, and I was never any good at that). It's always been "make new friend through mutual nerdy interests --> we realise we're both into each other --> we make out --> eventually Official Dating occurs!" xD
This is a solid strategy!
I have met several of my partners online, most of them come to think of it... I am an absolute failure at traditional "dating". The few times I tried getting set up by friends were all disasters. SO AWKWARD.
I'd much rather get to know someone without the trappings of a "date".
Personally, I don't really 'date'. I meet a lot of people online, but usually in a friendly "let's hangout" fashion. It's pretty easy, I'd imagine, to move forward from there. The platonic friends thing makes it feel low (or lower) pressure, too.
Though, maybe that just works for me because I'm not interested in having a relationship at all. I'm pretty happy by myself and wouldn't change that for anything haha
Online! It's so easy because you don't have to approach people or figure out if they're flirting vs just being friendly, if they're interested or already attached, or whatever. You talk, and if you're interested, you keep talking, and if you're not interested, you just stop talking. There's no weird pressures and social constructs. Met my hubby online almost 6 years ago now!
I mostly meet people either online or via online services. My partner and I started that way, met in person, and have been enjoying each other's company ever since.
We don't go in on holidays hardly at all. Instead we try to have some kind of date night each week and be sweet to each other every day.
I don't do holidays much myself... This one in particular is being shoved down my throat this year.
Ick, never a pleasant way to experience anything. Seems like it makes holidays all the more ... traumatic
I'll just temper it with horror movies or something. ❤
I am nearly 15, and while others are starting to drink and go to parties and do stuff that they should not do, I don't.. I just know a bit too much about that, and what it can do. I have no Problem with Talking to other people, the thing is just I don't know where and hoooooww?! I don't Even overthink, I just know that WHEN I say hello to someone, and I fail because.. of whatever, I know I will be that random, and when one of her friends ever sees me anywhere, they know it's me n stuff.. does that even make any sense? Help :(
I suck at relationship advice for your age group because I didn't date until after highschool was over and done with.
Can you tell me where to talk to girls? 😂I mean I will sure find some way to say hi.. BUT WHERE ;(
For me basically the only way I met or talked to people at that age was through school, extracurricular school activities, and my church, and it seemed like it was basically the same for everyone else too. There's not somewhere to go—school is it! If you're looking for something more structured to be able to meet people better but don't want to do parties, there are usually plenty of service clubs or various other student organizations (as well as obviously sports) that you can join that can give you more of an opportunity to interact, plus they'll end up looking good on your college applications to boot!
I.. am literally unable to talk to people even online. I don't know how to keep a conversation going. And I'm so stressed when talking to people I could die. Aaaand I put so much pressure on myself that I can't hope for meeting peo0le anymore. I just wait for them to come to me, but meh, they generally don't.
We just broke up yesterday. But I met him on social media.
No...just no. I've given up on trying to find someone because i don't think anyone would find it fun to date an introverted Autistic kid with a disability. So no dating for me
I don't mean in any way to disrespect or minimize what you've chosen as a healthy decision for yourself, but I would like to respectfully disagree with you. I really hope that you don't truly give up.
...why?
I think it's important to have faith in people. Not everyone is a superficial asshole.
Well all the people i've asked out turned out to be, so that kinda makes you lose faith...
Alright...
It's not that i don't want to date someone, it's just that i am scared to do so now
That's understandable.
[Double post, sorry.]
I met my partner on a dating site, it definitely makes the initial icebreaking stage easier!
Met mine online also, although not from a dating site. We played EQ (for you youngsters, that was the big MMO before WOW existed). We grouped up, played well together, and were friends for about a year before we decided to take things further. Well over a decade later, still going as partners, friends, and game buddies. :D
Back in the mists of time before him.... I met one ex-bf at work, actually 2. One longer ago I met when we were study partners in college. Basically all platonic starts, the only times I can recall doing things like friends setting me up on dates, it was an awkward disaster, too much pressure on everyone.
I was never able to date like most people do. My first contact with a boy was through mutual friends, and it became a seven year long relationship. It was kind of toxic and abusive and I had a lot of trouble to get away. Now I'm living with my second boyfriend, but last year I found out he lied a lot to me and his friends about who he really was (his profession, educational degree and money conditions, compulsive lying). I forgave him because I believe people should have a second chance and I think he gets me, he treats me like a princess and wants to marry me, but I think I stay with him also afraid to be alone because of my inability to date -_- my love life is very chaotic