Shitposting for the Fempire
Why I don’t like other straight men.
(Contains misogyny, victim‐blaming, carnal abuse, harassment, child abuse, references to mass murder—you get the picture.)
This rant has been a long time coming, but I’ve always hesitated to post it. I’m not particularly worried about enraging alt‐rightists (even though they do send really nasty messages), but I am worried about upsetting innocents. They may feel that I’m appropriating their frustration, & they’ll pay the price for my words (which incidentally would be another reason for my dislike), or perhaps they feel that I’m only pretending to dislike straight men for… respect? Friendships? I don’t know, it seems like if I wanted those I could certainly use a better method than this! I really don’t think that my own identity should matter here, especially if some clever guys are just going laugh, call me hypocritical, & dismiss everything that I’ve put into this.
But for whatever it’s worth, I neither like male cishets in general nor the society that they’ve made. Almost every time I subject myself to entertainment, go on‐line, or spend time outside, I can subject myself to stereotypical male sexuality (albeit to varying extents); it’s almost omnipresent. It’s somewhat comparable to waking up in a world wherein people will only eat human meat & waste products: it’s stressful; there are probably no communities one can visit for accommodation. As an individual, there’s not much that I can do against this other than ventilation.
So just to confirm that I’m not speaking baselessly, I’ve compiled dozens of links to get you an idea from where I’m coming, & yes, there are a lot. Some of them are scientific, some less so, but still worthy of consideration. I don’t expect anybody to read every single one of these, but for anybody who wants reasons, here you go.
They don’t care what women have to say, only how they look.
They harass women with large breasts.
They’ve monopolized ‘queer’ pornography.
They get off to women suffering abuse. (The most popular act may be the facial, which is almost always considered degrading or humiliating. Nonetheless, trying to cite this claim turned up nothing of use.)
They don’t care about satisfying women.
They’re too scared to satisfy women.
They pester people on the streets. (We apparently also have the final say on what gets to be harassment & what doesn’t; women’s own feelings are totally irrelevant.)
They harass women (and others) online everyday. The way in which they harass women & girls differs from how they harass others, & it’s more plentiful for them!
They send ‘sexy’ photos to people who don’t want them.
They intentionally put women into states of vulnerability.
They advocate child abuse & call it ‘discipline’.
They pester women trying to work.
They adhere to traditional masculinity so strongly that it damages their mental health.
They blame women for suffering carnal abuse, & probably directly or indirectly encourage women to agree with them about that (which might explain the gender disparity).
They have a really creepy fetish for teeners. (I think that straight blokes fetishise youth in general, but I can’t scientifically verify that.)
They mistake mainstream porn as accurate or realistic (though at least Swedes know better).
They’re friggin’ obsessed with dicks to the point where they have to be omnipresent, & everything gets compared to them. (Is there a superabundance of otherwise straight women with a vulva fixation? I doubt it.)
They pressure women or girls to imitate (fake) porn.
They have trouble distinguishing rape from sex.
They still make women do most of the domestic chores.
And this is mostly just scientific research. There’re anecdotes of straight blokes harassing queer women, harassing asexual women, such as offering to ‘fix’ them, accusing our antimisogyny as being a ploy for sex, calling women weird things like girls, babes (or ‘baby’ for an individual), chicks, females, & so on, an aggressive distaste for fat women, mature women, muscular women & aliæ, envying victims that women raped, oversexualizing queer women, lying when they compliment people, sending ‘concerned criticism’ like this (and wondering why anybody would lock her comment sections after getting shitloads of it), not knowing how to approach women, refusing to take responsibility for their misbehaviour, abhorring the idea of adopting their lovers’ surnames, harassing or pestering other others on‐line, typically for trivial reasons, disqualifying somebody from a board game if she displays too much cleavage, sexualizing a cancer (which is at least tacky if not misogynist), shaming or intimidating women who post revealing photos on‐line but letting cismen off the hook, telling strangers to smile when it’s none of their friggin’ business, refusing to believe almost any rape victim; any excuse can suffice (at least for the feds), caring more about false accusations than true ones (remember when they ruined the lives of Donald Trump, James Deen, Jameis Winston, and Woody Allen‽), still treating women like property, making laughworthy outfits for women, blaming women when men abuse or mistreat them (sometimes they don’t even attempt to hide it), asking utterly inane questions like this, I don’t even want to describe this, naming a drink after somebody’s genitals, harassing women and girls who just want to unwind, fetishising youths, jacking off to people in public (unconsensually of course), basically taking advantage of women clients interested in sexual services, publicizing ‘erotic’ photos or clips of others without their permission (and sometimes the content therein is fucking horrifying), murdering innocents because they were transgender, attempting to ‘fix’ queer people with disturbing methods, sometimes in ways that aren’t even pseudoscientific, inflicting horrific atrocities against women & others in wars, abusing gay people in camps, & exploiting others’ legacies of suffering to advance their own agendas (see pretty much any Holocaust comparison ever).
Sometimes they explain away misbehaviours using questionable ‘science’ which implies that it is both natural & permanent. Consequently, nothing is fixed. (These blokes still become deeply offended when satirists suggest permanent solutions, not understanding why anybody would write such things.)
Before somebody plays the ‘not all men’ card on me: I get it; I’m speaking hyperbolically, but the good chaps would agree with this sentiment anyway. Do not use them as cover. Instead, we should be disproving stereotypes. Nobody has to remain this way forever.
The question is, if we can’t admit that we have a problem, will anybody ever resolve it?




As straight white men are the dominant cultural group, I don't think that is hyperbole to say they are at fault for most societal woes. To say otherwise ignores mountains of evidence.
Good post. Lots to digest and ponder. 👍
havent you said youre a straight man. im confused.
He is. Doesn't mean he can't hate the behaviors often perpetrated and considered "normal" by straight guys in a society that caters primarily to them.
I guess. It feels like a weird sort of way to separate yourself. When a woman complains about disliking straight men, that is venting about an issue she has to deal with. In this context it comes across as self aggrandizing, almost.
Allow space for women to rant, rather than taking up the space doing it yourself in a way that intentionally alienates people, in a context where it isn't really your place to be alienating them.
I dunno though, not being whatever-oppressed-minority doesn't mean you aren't allowed to get angry about the injustices and oppression they face. Rather, I personally think it's beneficial to have people from all walks of life willing to support and listen to those who are oppressed, because isn't that part of the end goal: to have all people come together to recognise oppression where it exists and subsequently choose to act against the social structures which reinforce said oppression?
If you are constantly surrounded by people who are, to all intents and purposes "like you" in appearance but share a completely different set of values, that can also be frustrating and stifling and I can understand the desire to get that out - an overly simplistic analogy could be being surrounded by white folks who constantly spout racism and who laugh at/brush off any of your attempts not to be racist. If one were in that situation, it'd not be unreasonable to get angry at the actions of one's fellow white people, right? Forgive the sloppy comparison; I appreciate there are numerous differences. But why not rant? I understand what you mean about women's voices needing to be heard more, for sure, absolutely, yes! But to me criticising and suggesting muting someone's words just because of how they might identify sits a little uncomfortably close to how women have been treated for centuries and I'm personally not a huge fan of subjecting others to that.
I totally agree that it can be useful and important to have allies that are angry. But they also have a responsibility to some extent to do the emotional labor of not just venting about how they hate all men, if they are one. Their job is to go talk to their fellow men, who aren't going to listen to them with stuff like this. It comes across as weird performative outrage, rather than legitimate ally work.
Absolutely agreed that "not just venting" is important! But it's not unfair to also say that we have no way of knowing how much OP does irl regarding this topic (and since they're clearly passionate, I'm going to guess that they are as active as possible, both online and off). If ranting is something that needs to be done (because venting is healthier than bottling it up, after all) then this is as good a place to do so as any, isn't it? I dunno, I guess then it comes down to "what this community space is used for" and since I am new to this comm I am admittedly not in a good position to speak on that.
Yeah that is fair. I just get a weird vibe when straight white guys are always only saying how straight white guys are the worst and should die (this specific post isn't going that far, though I believe others have). I can't really articulate it better, will think about it some more.
Count me as a straight man that very much agrees with you.
Certainly not going to argue. As a class, cishet especially white dudes definitely set a tone. Individually cishet white men are often fine, but it's not as common as realizing one of them is probably not safe.
I dislike men in general while being male so I'm a bit different, but that's more a bit of a phobia too.