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Hey LGC friends! New job opportunity for me!
Hey guys! It's been a little while. How is everyone??
So, I work at an architecture firm in St. Louis. I absolutely love it here. So much freedom. Very relaxed. Great pay. We get a lot of perks. Simple things, such as: casual fridays, each person having a day each week to have control of the music (there's only 5 people who work here including the boss), beer on Friday at the end of the day, and some other stuff. Everyone here is so great. We all get along and they are all super helpful when asked a question.
Here's my dilemma. I was recently asked by the president of a different firm (also a small 4 or 5 person office, which I prefer) to go out to lunch. I interviewed with them before I got on with the firm I'm at now. I'm pretty sure he wants to speak about a job offer.
If the pay is better, then I know I need to take it. It's best for my family. I'm just so torn about it though. I've really gotten to know my co-workers on a personal level and we are also in the middle of a huge project. I'm gonna feel like an ass if I leave them. I'm gonna hate losing the perks and comfort I get from this office...
Please comment if you have advice or have been through something similar..




If your hypothetical new employer is worth their salt they'll allow you to negotiate a start date and will also respect your commitment to seeing the current project through. That will definitely give you bonus points all round too, since you won't be ditching your current folks and leaving them in a pickle, and they'll appreciate that - as other commenters have said.
With that said, is the pay going to be that much higher? Do you think you're going to be happy working there too? When my husband and I had a similar situation I told him to go for the job that would make him happier, because if he made himself miserable for the sake of money that isn't something I would feel comfortable with, especially if it could potentially lead to resentment a long way down the line.
Best of luck to you with making this tough decision, friend!
Hey Pipsy! Hope you've been well! I really appreciate the advice! And you're right. If the potential job offer is only for like say $1000 more a year then no I don't think I'll go for it. There are a lot of factors in this. Like you said, I should probably go with the one that's makes me the happiest. I mean unless the new one is significantly more pay that is. I know I really get along well with the new guys. I remember really liking that firm when I interview a couple years ago. So yeah it's a tough decision.
I wonder if you would be able to request staying at your current firm till the big project is finished. If your family really needs more money and especially if you make it clear to your current coworkers that you don't want to ditch them, I'm sure the friends you've made will understand making the best choice for your family. It wouldn't involve moving, would it? You could still see your old work friends.
Thanks for the reply jojo! I think thats a good point. They should understand me doing what's best for my family. I'm not sure how long this project would be going on for. It's pretty big. And in architecture, big projects like this could take well over a month or more to finish the drafting work. I was planning on requesting the typical "2 weeks". I suppose I could request a 3 week if they really needed it... as far as moving goes, no. I wouldn't have to move. But my co-workers don't all live in the same town and none are close in proximity to where I live. I could still see if they want to get together for drinks or something some weekend.
Wait until you actually get an offer. While you only know the context of the person with whom you're meeting, you don't know until you know. It's just lunch until it's not :) after that, then worry about it.
Thanks reibish! As I was typing out my post I was actually thinking the same thing. Although, I'm fairly certain this is a job offer from other context. I tend to want to have a plan for everything lol I mean I AM an architect. So I guess it's just anxiety about change and the unknown. I'm very comfortable here. I know exactly what's expected of me and I know I can do it. Idk what to expect from this place. I suppose that should be some of the context of our conversation during lunch if he offers the job.