The intersection of being neurodivergent and also queer.
Neurogenders and internalized ableism - Read this if you're NB and think identifying as trans would be appropriation
(Copypasted from reddit. I'm posting this as anon because I don't wanna choose a permanent profile, but I am @SoniEx2. )
Some neurodivergent ppl experience a form of gender dysphoria that only they can experience. Because of this, they may choose to identify as autgender (for autism), bordergender (for BPD), etc. These are called neurogenders.
I noticed some neurogender ppl experience internalized ableism. I never really experienced internalized ableism wrt my gender, so I'm speaking for others here, but I think I understand where they come from. They treat their gender feels like they aren't real, like their gender feels are invalid because they're caused by their neurodivergence. This is like saying sensory overload is invalid because it's caused by autism, and ignoring what's actually causing the sensory overload. They also feel like identifying as trans would be appropriation.
If you identify with a neurogender, you shouldn't dismiss your gender feels. Your identity is just as valid as an NT's. Gender is something you feel, and what you feel is perfectly valid. You're allowed to change your life based on how you feel. You're allowed to identify as trans.
Whether you identify as trans or not, if you do decide to transition, please don't feel pressured into doing things you don't want to do. But please do the things you want to do. And remember, transition can be any combination of HRT, surgery, masc/fem clothes, etc, or even just one of those things.
Some autgender resources:
- Some posts:
- More about autgender: https://www.tumblr.com/search/autigender
Some other resources:
- https://www.tumblr.com/search/gendervague (gendervague? I guess the vageuness of gendervague makes it hard to describe it...)
- I've heard of "anxiegender" before but I can't seem to find anything about it on tumblr?
- You can probably find more by just tapping what you want on the tumblr search bar. There's a lot I could add to this post and I welcome anyone to add it in the comments.
This is basically an older post of mine, but rewritten to be more friendly and oriented towards... uh, ppl who think they're appropriating trans ppl? Well, it includes more genders, at least.
I guess this is kind of a repost, but I felt the need to do this after reading this post. I guess this version is more of an advice post, rather than just bringing attention to this subject.
Let me know if I made any typos or if something I said sounds confusing.




I just got linked this ("the null hypothecis") in a group of friends. I haven't read it yet, but I was told it's pretty good?