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Need relationship advice
Soo.. i've been with my boyfriend for almost 2,5 years. Lately I've started to feel that something is off between us. If I text him, I'm lucky to get a respond within the first hour. He rarely answers my snapchats and he is shutting down when he is with me and has stopped telling me about his feelings. He could go on and on about his feelings at the beginning of the relationship and it just kinda stopped. Should I do something?




I think you should try and talk to him (over text or IRL, whatever you prefer). Tell him that you feel like he's been more distant recently and how it made you feel, and ask him why. Maybe he had a lot on his plate and didn't notice that you were unhappy.
If he dismisses you and doesn't take this seriously, I'd say it sounds like the relationship is over. I'm sorry. :/
Yeah, but thats already a "thing" in the relationship. He knows he is distant from me. Idk, we live close by to each other, but he lives at school and i live in a apartment, so it is only natural for him to connect with the people he lives with. And I get that, but when he talks to people at his school about his feelings instead of me, that hurts.
There was this thing the other night, he was supposed to finally open up and then he didnt even wanna hang out because of my exams that are coming up soon. Soo.. the discussion pretty much ended with him saying "do you believe this will be the last time I ever open up to you?".
I just dont want to live the rest of my life with a boyfriend who can not open up to me. It's been like this for over a year..
For an entire year?!
I'm sorry dude! I thought from reading initially that it was a recent thing! If it's been like this for that long, then I think you guys really need to have a long face to face conversation about this, and be prepared for the worst.
You're obviously very uncomfortable with this and if he can't make the effort to include you more than maybe it's for the best for you to end it. It's not fair to you to be left out.
Oh yeah! A whole year. I can get why you thought it was a recent thing, it's gotten a lot worse after he started his new school (the whole relationship got worse). And trust me, I've talked to him about this several times and for the first few weeks, it gets better, and then it just goes back to shut down.
Don't get me wrong in this, I think it's great that he found a friend to talk to- that also talks to him about things, but I assumed as his girlfriend, I was the "go-to"-person. At least I should be!
When we hang out, its great. We joke, laugh, have fun and chill. Its just a rare thing for him to fully open up, so he can often be like "this thing is kinda bothering me, but im fine" and then he brushes it off whenever I try to talk about it.
It's hard being in a relationship sometimes and I know that. I just don't want to be one of those couples who gave up when it is actually a very easy thing to fix!
It doesn't sound like it's going to be easy to fix this. I mean, you tried. And you don't owe it to anyone tob keep the relationship alive; a relationship is meant to make the people in it happy and if you're not happy, it's not working. Sure, sometimes there are difficult phases, and it's good to face problems and try to work on them, but you did that. And it's been going on for a year.
I have a question for you. Assuming he doesn't change: how long do you want to stay with him?
I do not give you any advice. Only I ask you, and the answer should not exceed 6 words. YOU, what are you going to do now?
Read for my exams instead