Ending not-so-nice behaviour that permeates discourse surrounding issues like politics, religion, and even fandom stuff.
The bottom line is, we shouldn’t have to be conditioned to accept rudeness from other people.
Just like we shouldn’t have to be conditioned to accept racism, sexism, ableism, ageism, classism, fatphobia, homophobia, transphobia, etc. - we also shouldn’t have to accept rudeness, in general.
I’m not saying that rudeness is comparable to bigotry, which is obviously much worse - but, if we can work to eliminate bigotry from our lives, then it shouldn’t take too much effort to also eliminate general rudeness from our lives. That’s all.
This will be my last post, for tonight. <3
ETA: Upon doing some more thinking, "empathy" is probably the word that we should be using. I'm not saying that we need to follow a list of etiquette rules, and it would be a neurotypicalistic thing to suggest. So "polite" is probably not the correct word to use.



I don't deal well with rudeness either, but politely telling people that they are hurting someone is often dismissed, so a certain degree of rudeness can be both necessary to not be ignored, and a result of the frustration of dealing with these systems. So telling people not to be rude can actually limit the expression of marginalised people.
Just like people read as women are told that their anger is not pretty, like people of colour are assumed to be dangerous when they express anger, how trans women are denied womanhood when they express theirs.
And no I don't think every vile thing is okay in every situation, and I think it is important to try and be kind, but just a general ban of rudeness plays very much into structures of oppression.
I said I wasn't gonna make anymore posts, tonight - so I'll explain the results here. I realized that the people I thought were being harsh or rude maybe weren't trying to be that way. On the flip side, I've also realized there were things I myself have said that could come off as rude. And, as for the post that started it all... I didn't handle a sensitive subject with as much delicacy as I should have, so that's where I went wrong.
So I realize now that we need to have a bit more leeway in both direction. If you respond to rudeness with anger, that tends to escalate the issue - and I realize that, now.
Anyway, I think your comments here are very insightful and well thought out. It's possible that we might not agree on everything, but that's fine.
Also, yeah, I'm not gonna say "be nice to assholes". I should maybe do a separate post on that, later. I assume you agree that Donald Trump is a massive asshole - so, yeah, I'm not gonna say we have to be nice to him. But, as I said in my previous comment, we should have more compassion for those we engage with discourse with - and that's something I need to work more on, as well.