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[TW: Rape] Has anyone who has been raped watch the 'Audrie & Daisy' documentary?
'Audrie and Daisy' is a Netflix documentary about two girls who were sexually assaulted https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=29Dr4ChJUBc
I was raped by my boyfriend when I was 16. It still causes me distress when certain reminders crop up. I'd like to watch 'Audrie & Daisy'. I hope that it might be vindicating - it looks like the issue of rape is taken seriously. But I worry it will cause me distress. I struggled through The Hunting Ground, it probably made me feel more helpless than I had hoped. But I found reading the letter written by the woman raped by Brock Turner to be empowering.
Has anyone who has been raped watched 'Audrie & Daisy'? Is it watchable? I feel like perhaps it's not intended for us and maybe it's more of an awareness raising/ aiming to shock?




I've not been raped. But a long time ago I volunteered with medics in a war zone where there was a lot of rape, and I find my blood draining cold with rage in response to the subject since then. I'll check out the doco and let you know, if you're open to that.
Thank you. I think my concern is with how the issue is handled.
Some of these documentaries, I feel as though the angle is "Look! This is an important issue! People don't take it seriously and it should! Look how impacted these girls are!" The point is to raise awareness about the issue by showing the hurt and pain of the women who have been sexually assaulted. But I know that. I know the pain, I know the feeling of helplessness and I know that a lot of people blame women for it. I think it's intended to be a bucket of icy water poured over the complacent, to wake them up. But I'm woke. There is a man in the Audrie and Daisy trailer quoted as saying "women are equally culpable" or something like that and it makes me feel really shit about myself, it makes me feel like nothing.
Whereas the letter by the woman in the Brock Turner case is empowering: it's in her voice and addresses the utter bullshit and excuses and addresses them so successfully and clearly.
I was actually raped a long time ago, I'm middle aged now. It's not something that impacts my every day life but the issue of violence against women is one that I care about and it would be nice to remain involved in public discourse about it. But I don't really want to watch it if it just repeats the awful things people say about rape victims. Even though I'm old and successful and "powerful", it takes me back to a place of powerlessness.
Maybe put a trigger warning on the title here. It's brutal to be hit with this out of the blue.
Apologies - I have added a trigger warning.