Negotiation meta script and consent issues

As a general rule/in the scene/etc, the way I tend to see kink interactions conceptualized etc goes something like:

Decide you want to play together -> Negotiation -> Play

This meta script feels to me like it isn't very good at dealing with incompatibility. Outside of immediately apparent things or some prior way of having gotten information about the other person, negotiation seems to be the part where you'd find out about incomplatibitilies. However, the meta script doesn't feel like it really leaves room for that - I don't usually see examples of people running into incompatibiltiy in negotiation and thus deciding not to do things together after all, etc.

This feels like it connects to scene stuff about there being a 'normal' way of doing things, and lack of sufficient recognition of how different people can be and of incompatibility.

It also, to me, feels like it ends up pressuring - if I don't have ways of saying 'oh, no, it looks like this isn't going to work' that feel not-bad, and if I don't have confidence that my partner would say that, then this ends up as a situation where it's more likely that at least one person will be doing things they don't like/want. (And due to domism, in my experience this tends to be/there's expectation that this will be the sub or bottom).

Does anyone else have any thoughts/experiences/anything with this? Does anyone know any examples/scripts/etc where people realized an incompatibility during negotiation and proceeded to not do things (without this being seen as Bad etc)?