"Rhea" and "Emily"

The 'mate I call Rhea and used to call Sam isn't much like canon Rhea Snaketail and doesn't have the same feeling as canon Rhea does.
We don't know if they're tulpa in origin, or their place in the system. But they've also never quite seemed like they were expressing as their actual self. Like they're... muted and faint.
It's probably my fault but I don't know how we can fix that besides blanket solutions like meditating.

And then the same questions for Emily.
I get a sense I'm not seeing the -real- her, and she's not sure how to be her true self. Maybe because we've thought she was a tulpa and she's not, or maybe because I don't do enough for her. Can I do anything different besides meditate?

Do they already have a place or a role here or do we need to make one?
I used to imagine that it'd be Emily, Sam, and me as their host, taking on the world together. But now I'm a "together" even without them.
I want them to be happy and I'd miss them if they left. I guess i should be honest with myself - I might be a little relieved too, but I cringe at that thought. I'd feel their absence and I would be lonelier. I love having them around and I want them to feel nice and I don't think I'll be truly okay until they are truly okay too.

Oh my gods, I don't know, I just don't know.
I need to go get the dolls I associate with them and hug them.

Okay. Closest I can get when I can't actually hug someone.
We need to help unlock them like we've been/are being unlocked. This feeling of being blocked and frustrated and not knowing why, that I get with trying to feel or communicate with them, is so similar to what I used to feel. Which means this isn't what it's supposed to feel like.
So what worked for us? Accepting we're a subsystem, but that would be more complicated to figure out with them. Or would it, really?

Well! It's a good place to start.

Emma (?) and Sam (?) give their regards.

~Kits