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Valentine's Day Heartbreaker

I do not have a strong record of being in relationships on Valentine's Day.
Look it's a terrible holiday. If you're in a relationship and want to go out that night, all the "nicer" restaurants jack up their prices. If you're not in a relationship, it's just an oppressive reminder that you're alone. God help you if you're fresh off a breakup or are in some b.s. "it's complicated" relationship limbo.
TANGENT!!!
Here's a "fun" social media story from my divorce year, around 2005.
I'd been married for just over a year when my wife walked out on me, needed some time apart. A month later, without any further discussion, she was requesting a divorce. I eventually got her to agree to try marriage counseling. I didn't want to walk away from this marriage without knowing that we'd at least TRIED to work things out. We were in marriage counseling for about a year which was excruciating and expensive.
Sometime during that year, I logged onto my "Friendster" account. If you're not familiar, Friendster was a social media site that was sort of a precursor to Facebook. It was a way to keep in touch with friends but some people used it to meet people: the idea being, you weren't complete strangers, you were connected to common friends. Anyway, my wife and I both had Friendster accounts when we were married but when I randomly checked "Friendster" in the middle of our marriage counseling year, I noticed that she'd changed her relationship status from "married" to "it's complicated".
This was upsetting.
What's worse, she had filled out a dating section titled "Who are you looking to meet?"
Suffice it to say, the marriage counseling went nowhere and we eventually got divorced. I kept a perfect ignorance of her personal life once we finally parted ways. About a decade later, at a random party, I strike up a conversation with a guy who happened to know her -- and he inadvertently confirms my suspicion that she had been dating some guy (that I knew) during that marriage counseling year. Ain't it fun when old wounds get reopened?
TLDR: To hell with love.
I made this animation in dishonor of this national day of mourning.




I already ranted in /Daredevil and imma say it again: FUCK VALENTINE'S DAY
Completely.
What the?! WTF? I need names!!!
Ugh. I think his name was Spangler? When I mentioned that I used to married to her, the guy said, "Was this before or after the tall white guy?"
Didn't know that was happening during counseling, not that it wasn't already fubared...
I don't details or timeframes but I had a feeling something was going on during counseling.
Yeeeep.
Having been down that marriage road myself I'm always available to trade horror stories and drink.
I loathe Valentine's Day. With the exception of horror themed cards and cheap chocolate the next day.
V-Day suuucks! The perfect excuse to avoid the outside world, especially since I can't afford to spend nuffin...
Oof, yes, we should trade horror stories sometime...
and drink. Drinking required.
YES, implicit :-P
My spouse didn't even want counselling... Just up and decided to move back home and never spoke to me again. Most expensive mistake of my life and I'm not even really divorced yet...
ARGH!!! That's a sock to the face!
My ex didn't want counseling, for sure. I think she reluctantly agreed -- but the worst part was, I think she just thought of it as an extended "exit interview". She'd made up her mind and made us both waste a lot of time and money -- not just on the counseling but, for me, that year of living in limbo. Pure misery.
Definitely the most expensive mistake of my life in every respect. I've had a series of relationships since then but they were all haunted by that... horror.
I hear ya so hard on the wasted money thing... Over the course of my marriage I paid for nearly everything. Let's see there was immigration stuff, medical and dental care out of pocket (my benefits didn't cover my spouse initially), new eyeglasses, a new computer, weight loss program, computer games, the phone bill of some chick he was having an emotional affair with.... Oh and plane tickets home and 3 months worth of living expenses when he threw a god damn tantrum about us having trouble. The whole thing exploded in about 3 days and he took a flight home. I ended up losing my full time job due to the stress a month or so later. Declared bankruptcy due to the debt. And generally turned into a giant mess....
So my feelings on the topic of marriage and romance are um... Fuck that.